|I have always been a fighter. When I say “fighter,” I don’t mean just with fists and knuckles, although there was a fair share of that in my neighborhood growing up. What I am referencing, more specifically, is my fight against the odds. Where I’m from, kids were never expected to amount to much. In fact, of around 30 friends from my neighborhood, only about 6 are still alive today, and of the rest, most didn't survive long enough to see their 30th birthday.
I was born and raised in Charleston, West Virginia with my single mother, Mona. We were on welfare and she lived life on the edge as a drug dealer and addict.
|When I was three months old, my mother brought me with her on a plane to San Diego to be closer to my dad, but things never seemed to work out between the two of them. When I was four, my mother was arrested, which left me in an orphanage until I was adopted by a foster family and lived with them as I awaited the day of mother’s release from jail.
I was five years old when my mother and I moved to South Bronx because my mother envisioned an opportunity to make big money in the drug world. South Bronx in ‘85 was one of the roughest places to live. Drugs and violence were at an all-time high then. On one occasion, my mother and I were held hostage and taken to an abandoned apartment where she was robbed.
She continued dealing drugs for about six months before deciding to send me on a plane back to West Virginia to live with my aunt Rose, while she made her last big drug deal. A week later she was shot in the ribs, puncturing her lung. To make matters worse, her doctors soon discovered she had AIDS, which in ’85 was a rapid death sentence.
Aunt Rose couldn’t handle my energy for long, so I was sent to stay with my Aunt Kim and Uncle Butchy, who I lived with for 3 years.
My Mother survived the gunshot and we were reunited when I was 8 years old. She knew how brutal the street of Charleston WV could be, so she enrolled me in martial arts. Even though it began with the goal of self-defense, the discipline, focus, self-confidence, and perseverance that I learned, I also began applying to everything I encountered including, and especially, business. From a young age, I learned, that the more intense the situation was, the calmer I became. Whether I’m facing an opponent in combat or negotiating a tough real estate deal, I’m able to maintain a calm and cool demeanor and face the challenges ahead.
After years of practicing martial arts, I discovered wrestling. I put everything I had into the sport. In practice, I was confident that no one would work harder than me. One year, well into the season, I had successfully pinned every one of my opponents in dual meets. I made it to the metro tournament finals where I faced a state-ranked opponent. I was convinced I would come out on top. We went back and forth until ultimately, I ended up losing 4 to 7.
|To say I was disappointed would be an understatement. Not only was I frustrated, I was confused. I thought to myself, “How had he beaten me, when I had given it my all?” When I lost, people attempted to console me. I heard, “You should be proud,” and “You fought so hard.” I didn’t want to hear their praise for my efforts; I wanted to know why I lost. I asked around and his teammates told me he would run for miles after each practice.
|It was simple, my opponent not only did his best, he did what he needed to do to win. I learned a very valuable lesson from that experience: If your best isn’t good enough, do more. Do what it takes to win.
Shortly after I graduated high school, I became a father. I was only nineteen years old and I was terrified! I was stressed and anxious preparing for my daughter’s arrival, but as soon as I set eyes on my Jasmine, I felt the same sense of tranquility that I had felt in combat and other threatening or scary situations. I knew that everything would be okay. I had a new sense of purpose something to fight for, something more valuable than anything before. At the time that my first daughter was born, I was working three jobs, attending college full-time, and selling fitness supplements out of the trunk of my car.
My love of mental and physical fitness led me to a position as a full-time certified personal trainer. Many of my clients said that my empathetic, ambitious, patient, and supportive nature made me perfect for real estate. I researched the industry and I agreed. In 2004, I earned my real estate license, and I never looked back!
My Mother always worried she hadn’t done enough to provide a solid foundation for me growing up, but to me, she gave me more than a foundation, she gave me motivation, she taught me to fight. The fight-harder concept stuck with me throughout my life and I instill the same principals into my children and relationships with the people around me.
A huge part of my "Big Why" in life is to prove that, despite everything we went through, my mother and I, the lessons she taught me and her honesty about the real world are the reasons I continue to grow and accomplish big goals in business, fatherhood, and in life. I will always remember the last words I spoke to her that eased her worries: I whispered in her ear, "You did a good job Mom.”
Since earning my real estate license, I’ve welcomed my second daughter, Liliana, and my son, Jason Aiden. I am a highly involved single father, former PTA President, and I love taking my children on adventures to see the world.
| In 2010, just one year after my mother’s death, I started Epic Fighting; an MMA promotions company that hosts multiple events a year in San Diego, where fighters from all over the world compete against each other to show off their combat skills. I also published my book titled “FIGHT QUOTES,” which is on Amazon, and I’m currently in the process of releasing a book on real estate and a children’s book called "Charlotte the Friendly Wolf."
Now that I’ve achieved success personally and professionally, I do not rest on my laurels. I am still fighting, only now I do it for my clients. I always put their best interests first, and I place their interests above my own.
|I am an empathetic consultant, A high-level negotiator, and an expert solution creator. I’m here to coach my clients, fight to get them the best deal, and make sure that they are protected in the process! I am here to serve those that put their trust in me, and I will outwork anyone to ensure that at the end of the day, I deliver results!|
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